Sex Position of the Week: Cowgirl
The wild, wild cowboy aesthetic may be currently popular, there is one thing that never loses its appeal - the cowgirl sex position.
You've probably heard of the cowgirl sex position even if you haven't tried it yet. It's a classic position that's popular for good reason: it gives people with vulvas a better chance of reaching orgasm. This is because the person on top, or the "rider", has greater control over the speed and angle, allowing them to focus on their own pleasure points.
The cowgirl sex position is also highly versatile, which can help ease any concerns or apprehension about being on top. Regardless of your gender or body type, or that of your partner, this spicy position allows for pleasurable exploration, embracing your sensuality, and even trying new things. Moreover, it's a playful position that often comes with cheeky innuendos, making it all the more enjoyable.
I know that being on top during sex can sometimes make people feel self-conscious, particularly if they are not accustomed to it. When you're in the cowgirl position, you not only have control but you're also in a more intimate position with your partner. That's why, with the guidance of a sexologist, I'm providing you with some helpful tips, tricks, and instructions for the cowgirl sex position. So, let's saddle up and take charge of our pleasure!
What is the cowgirl sex position?
The cowgirl sex position involves the penetrating partner lying on their back while the other person faces them and straddles them in a squatting position on top. As the name suggests, it resembles the act of riding a horse. From there, you can ride your partner's penis in a manner similar to how a cowgirl would ride a bull.
Why use cowgirl sex position?
The cowgirl position gives you greater control over the depth, speed, and angle of penetration, allowing you to move your body in a way that feels most pleasurable for you. You can use this position to stimulating both your vagina and clitoris simultaneously, increasing the intensity of your pleasure. By taking a dominant role in this position, you can also delay your partner's climax while intensifying your own.
Find More Pleasure
To perform the cowgirl position effectively, you may want to try squatting with your feet flat on the bed or floor and bouncing up and down for deeper penetration. This can also double as a workout! However, if it feels too deep, you can use pillows under your knees to lift yourself up. If you prefer shorter strokes and greater clitoral stimulation, try kneeling and grinding your hips against your partner's pubic bone. Alternatively, lean forward slightly so that your chests are closer together for a different angle of penetration.
If you're feeling uncertain or want to mix things up, try the reverse cowgirl position. It's essentially the same as the cowgirl position, but the person on top turns around to face away from their partner. It may take some experimentation to find the perfect rhythm, so don't be afraid to try different speeds and angles to discover what feels most pleasurable for you.
Make it Better
Here's a pro tip: consider using a vibrating ring around your partner's penis or strap-on during the cowgirl position. This can enhance the experience by providing added clitoral stimulation. This can take the pleasure to the next level and make for an even more enjoyable cowgirl experience.
Feeling tired? Use your partner! They can have some control, after all. You could ask them to thrust upwards from below or use their hands to provide more leverage for deeper penetration. Tucking your legs under your partner's or having them hold onto your hips can also provide added stability. The person on the bottom can also sit up, allowing for a closer connection between your clitoris and your partner's pelvis for increased stimulation.
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