Beginner's Guide to Prostate Massagers

If you’ve never enjoyed the thrill of prostate play, then you’re missing out!

Get ready to experience pleasure like never before, my friend! This internal hotspot of delight known as the prostate is a true epicenter of pleasure. And the best way to access it? By giving it a good massage via the anus, of course! Prepare to have your socks blown off with explosive full-body orgasms, hands-free 'super-Os', and even multiple climaxes. It's like a secret weapon for your pleasure arsenal, and trust me, you won't want to miss out on it. 

If you're keen on discovering your treasure trove of pleasure, the prostate gland or your P-spot, isn't that difficult, but pleasuring it properly takes a bit of time and skill. We've got you covered with our ultimate guide to prostate pleasure, complete with tips and toys to help you achieve maximum booty bliss. 

How to find your P-spot

Your prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the penis and the bladder. To find yours, insert one or two lubed fingers into the anus and feel around, pointing your fingers upwards. It will feel quite different from the rest of the tissue inside the rectum, so it shouldn't be difficult to locate. As a guide, it should be about 2 inches inside.

When you're feeling frisky and your body is revving up, your P-spot tends to puff up like a little balloon. So, if you want to give it some lovin', it's best to get in the mood first with some foreplay or solo play. Trust me, you'll thank yourself later when you hit that sweet spot just right.

What are Prostate Massagers?

A prostate massager is a sex toy that’s specifically designed to stimulate the P-spot.

Most people with a penis move on to prostate sex toys once they've discovered the area with fingers first, but go with whatever feels right to you.

Most prostate massagers, like the Honeykissme Taylor have a tapered tip to ease insertion and a rounded head to ensure stimulation in the right spot.

How to Use a Prostate Toy?

Relax your body

Use the restroom before using the prostate toy. Trust me, you don't want any unwanted surprises during your little solo adventure.

Now, if you really wanna get into the groove, consider taking a steamy shower or soaking in a relaxing bath beforehand. Not only will it get you all clean and fresh, but it can also help loosen up those tight pelvic muscles, making for a smoother and more enjoyable ride. So go ahead, indulge in a little pre-game pampering - your body (and your toy) will thank you for it!

Apply lubricant

Position yourself comfortably, either on your back with your legs raised or bent over with your upper body leaning on a couch or bed. Once you are ready, apply an anal lubricant like Lovehoney Discover Water-Based Lube to yourself and the toy – this should make insertion easy and pain free.

It's best to use a water-based lubricant with dildos. Using a high-quality water-based lubricant can help reduce discomfort and potential injury, making your experience more enjoyable and safer.

Insert the toy

Slowly and gently insert the prostate toy into the rectum, with the curved end pointing towards the prostate gland. 

Don't be shy about using plenty of lube, it'll make things a whole lot smoother and more enjoyable. And most importantly, relax those muscles! Tensing up is no bueno when you're trying to get down and dirty with yourself.

Don't get discouraged if it takes a bit of trial and error to find the perfect position for you. Everyone's body is different, so what works for your buddy might not work for you. So keep on experimenting and exploring, and before you know it, you'll be having the time of your life. 


If you're looking to take things up a notch, try applying some firm pressure to your P-spot for some seriously tantalizing sensations. And if you really want to ramp things up, experiment with an up-and-down motion that strokes over that prostate gland like nobody's business. Maybe it'll take you to the heights of ecstasy.

And here's a little pro tip - with practice, some folks can actually achieve a hands-free orgasm by clenching and releasing their muscles, and letting the toy do the work.