If you’re reading this, you might be the type of person who is aware of the prostate, but has no idea what it is or what it does.

You’re not alone! In fact, a lot of people don’t know much about it because the reality is oftentimes, we talk about a female body’s pleasure points more than the male’s.

That’s not to say it’s wrong, though! It’s important to get up to speed on how to pleasure both woman and man because as people always say, it takes two to tango when it comes to sex.

So, allow us to guide you about the prostate – what it is, who can have a prostate orgasm, how does it differ from normal ejaculation, how is it supposed to feel, how do you achieve a prostate orgasm, some positions to try, how to do proper aftercare, and what are the benefits.

What is a prostate?

According to WebMD, the prostate is a walnut-shaped gland that produces some of the fluid in semen. It’s located between the bladder and the penis and when it is stimulated and massaged, can provide an individual a type of orgasm called prostate orgasm.

Who can have a prostate orgasm?

Now, you might be thinking that since a prostate is a male-exclusive organ, doesn’t mean that it’s only them that gets to enjoy pleasure on the back end. As Men’s Health says, everybody can participate in butt play. More specially, anybody can enjoy a prostate massage regardless of their gender identity. The trick of the matter is learning how to locate and pleasure it in ways that will have you or your partner screaming for more.

How does it differ from normal ejaculation?

According to Planned Parenthood, while a prostate orgasm is similar to a normal ejaculation, not everyone can ejaculate from a prostate orgasm. Usually, what happens is that you feel this intense sensation, followed by a dribble of milky fluid from the urethra.

How is a prostate orgasm supposed to feel?

Unlike the common penile ejaculation, a prostate orgasm is rather hard to describe so we’re turning to Cosmopolitan for their insight:

"It's hard to describe. But the feeling is much better than a normal orgasm. You get the slow buildup of pleasure that is common before a normal orgasm, but it takes longer and gets more and more intense," says ayepuh.

TempestX agrees, " It's a full body orgasm that gives you an emotional boost. I've felt euphoric afterwards, other times I've cried because it's overwhelming. It's like nothing I've ever felt. I feel vulnerable and amazing. It's a completely different sensation than we're used to."

"I've had many and it's absolutely incredible - way more intense. So intense that it's kind of a once-in-a-blue-moon treat so as to not become desensitised to the less intense but far more occurring 'normal' orgasm from sex with the GF," says SadKingBilly.

How do you achieve a prostate orgasm?

Before we take you down to the good stuff, WedMD wants to remind you that prostate orgasm comes in many names: prostate milking and prostate massage. All three of these variations can be used interchangeably as they mean the same thing.

So, how do you achieve a prostate orgasm? Together with Mind Body Green, we’ll lay it down like this:

Take the pressure off

Have you ever had those moments where you’re hyping yourself up to do one thing but when the time comes, it doesn’t happen?

The same thing could occur when you attempt to achieve prostate orgasm. You see, putting pressure on yourself to do something is not going to help, it only adds on to the expectation that you’re amazing if you do it; or there’s something wrong if you don’t.

So keep in mind that you can still feel pleasure on your prostate, regardless of whether you came or not.

Start with a finger

Sometimes, the best tools you have are the ones you’re already born with. Our fingers are more malleable and responsive than toys. That’s why we recommend you to start with this first!

But before you put it in, you need to make sure that you’re turned on first. Get yourself ready by touching all of your favorite places like your earlobes, neck, chest, ass and cock. Or if that’s not your cup of tea, watching porn is a good way too! The important thing here is to make sure your body is ready for the ride so that you don’t hurt yourself.

Then, when you’re ready, carefully put one finger in and curl it towards your stomach. You should feel a bulbous, spongy gland and from that point on, you can experiment with different types of touches to find out what gives you the most-toe curling pleasure.

Try to stimulate externally

Okay, since the prostate is located next to the rectum, you’re kind of nervous about the possibility of touching poop – or worse, getting it out and onto the bed.

While there are ways to go around that like douching or enema, in case you’re not ready for it, you can stimulate your prostate externally.

You can do this by applying pressure to the perineum – which is the area between the anus and scrotum, and explore from there.

Some positions to try

If you’re already well-acquainted with your fingers, then it’s time to explore some delicious positions. Together with Healthline, we’re giving you the four options to try:

Face down

To do this by yourself:

• Lie face down.
• Reach your arm behind you and rest it on your back.
• Reach your perineum or anus with your finger.

To do this with a partner:

• Lie face down with your arms at your sides and legs slightly apart.
• Have them sit next to you on the side most comfortable for them.
• Have them gently massage your prostate.

Legs up

To do this by yourself:

• Lie on your back.
• Pull your knees up towards your chest as close as you can comfortably.
• Use one arm to hold your legs in place.
• Use your other hand to reach your anus.

To do this with a partner:

• Lie on your back.
• Pull your knees up towards your chest, holding them in place with both hands.
• Have them kneel in front of you and massage your prostate internally, externally, or both simultaneously.

On your side, one leg to chest

To do this by yourself:

• Lie on your side.
• Bring your outer leg up towards your chest.
• Reach your hand around to your anus.

To do this with a partner:

• Lie on your side.
• Bring your outer leg towards your chest.
• Have them sit behind you to reach your anus.

Doggy

To do this by yourself:

• Get down on all fours.
• Reach your arm between your legs or around your back to reach your anus.

To do this with a partner:

• Get down on all fours.
• Have them kneel behind you to reach your anus.

Level-up with prostate toys

Let’s say you’ve done all that you can with your fingers and you’re ready to take the next step. This is where the toys come in.

There are many toys in the market that can help you stimulate your prostate and bring you different levels of sensation and to help you get started, we’re recommending you our three best massagers:

Quinn - Motion Vibrating Prostate Massager

Quinn is the master of the wiggle. With seven expertly-tuned wiggling vibrating patterns, and curved and angled contour, this will give you the most intense sensations to your perineum.

Plus, it’s waterproof and has dual-stimulation capacity so it won’t just be your prostate that’s getting the good vibrations, your perineum will too!

Akira - Remote Prostate and Perineum Massager

Akira can actually detect your prostate like a high-powered magnet. So, if you previously had trouble finding it with your own fingers, Akira can solve that problem for you.

It also comes with a remote which gives you a much flexible control over the intensity and speed of the vibrations to your prostate and perineum. The cherry on top? It’s head nods and wiggles based on seven adjustable wiggling patterns! So whether you need to gain some footing first or you wanna dive in deep, Akira is an all-rounder ready to step up to the plate.

Dakota - Thrusting Vibrating Prostate and Perineum Massager

We think this one takes the cake when it comes to having all the features you’re looking for in a knock-our prostate orgasm.

Unlike Quinn and Akira, Dakota has twelve thrusting frequencies on top of its twelve vibrating modes so you can experience the feeling of someone penetrating you from behind while giving your prostate and perineum the ultimate loving.

How to do proper aftercare

With anything involving sex, it’s important to practice aftercare. This is to avoid the risk of harm, infection or the more general discomfort after a prostate massage.

Men’s Health provides a few simple ways to do aftercare. First is taking it slow. Since a prostate orgasm can be quite intense, you’re sure to feel incredibly tired to move from the bed. Take your time to recoup and only get up once you have enough energy.

The reason for this is to avoid a lack of focus when cleaning up. You need to be able to get everything washed away to ensure a proper recovery process.

What are the benefits for a prostate orgasm?

You’ll be pleasantly surprised that a prostate orgasm has many benefits. According to RO Health, it can actually help treat a number of conditions:

Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia

Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia is a condition that can develop with age and affects mostly people over fifty. It causes urinary tract symptoms like loss of bladder control (incontinence) or difficulty fully emptying the Bladder, but limited research has found therapeutic prostate massage may help alleviate these issues in some cases.

Chronic Prostatitis

Men can get chronic prostatitis from infection or injury. It is characterized by pain and difficulty urinating, which may lead to other issues such as penile rigidity/paralysis among others. 

Prostate massage isn't always helpful for people suffering from this condition but it does provide relief in some cases so long as you're applying pressure correctly- incorrect methods could actually make things worse!

Prostate Cancer

There is some evidence that prostate massage may be beneficial for men with early stage Prostate Cancer. A long term study by Harvard Medical School found those who reported 21 or more times per month had a lower risk than 4-7 times monthly but it's not clear if this reduces someone’s chance of getting diagnosed altogether as there are other factors involved in reducing your chances too such as family history and diet!

While this is wonderful news to hear, and you can’t wait to give it a shot, don’t forget to consult with your doctor to figure out the best treatment plan for you!

Wrapping it up

The prostate is somewhat of an underdog. We know that its there but we don’t really pay much attention to it, especially in the world of sex. We think it’s time to change that!

In reality, the prostate is another erogenous zone that can give you a different brand of pleasure once you get to know it and if you’re interested, allow this article to help you take away the unnecessary roadblocks and blaze a clear path to touching your prostate right.

As always, remember that sex is all about you. You determine the pace in which you try new things and the speed in which you take things to the next level. While an orgasm is great, it is not the golden standard to tell whether or not you’ve done well, as what’s truly important is you get to feel the kind of pleasure you’re seeking.

So take it easy, be careful and enjoy! Who knows? You’ll become a master in no time!